the Christian thing to do, but yet you feel HORRIBLE?
Yep, had one of those this evening. It has a long story attached, but suffice it to say that I was snubbed by someone I consider part of my extended family. It shouldn't really surprise me, being that his parents have only seen his infant son once since his birth in April. But it still hurts.
What bothers me is--how do people call themselves Christians and treat their family members this way? If there was some history of mistreatment or abuse, maybe I'd see it. But there isn't! Yes, there has been some miscommunication and hurt, but aren't we supposed to forgive each other and move on? What about the LOVE? Is that not supposed to come in there somewhere?
I know that this is extremely vague. I just wanted to know if anyone else has had experiences like this. I could have easily left without speaking to him. He probably would have never even known I was there. Maybe I make him uncomfortable because I remind him of the family he is leaving out of his life. But would I be any better than him if I just pretended he didn't exist? Aren't I, as a Christian, supposed to continue to reach out in love and reconciliation? I didn't speak to him to make him uncomfortable. I spoke to him because no matter how many years pass, I'm still gonna love him as my friend and family member.
Did I do the right thing? And do I continue to speak, or just treat him with indifference like he treats me?
Robin, this is BH, in case you're wondering.